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Praying for Independence and Dependence

Praying for Independence and Dependence

I am the vine, you are the branches; he who abides in Me and I in him, he bears much fruit, for apart from Me you can do nothing. John 15:5 (NASB)

I have to admit I suffered from mommy-envy at times while the boys were growing up. I’d gather together with other moms and they’d share how little Susie was a clinger or little Joey wouldn’t let mom out of his sight. I didn’t really want the problems that often accompanied these complaints, but really, it would have been nice to be missed occasionally.

For instance, when we began dropping the boys off in the church nursery I would have liked a hug or even a lingering look of longing before they rushed inside. Instead, on one of the few occasions our oldest did glance back he stopped and frowned at me. “Are you still here?”

Ouch. There’s a lot to be said for independence, but every mom has her limits.

As difficult as it was to realize independence came naturally to my boys, it was also a blessing. And it’s something that I learned to pray for.

Dear Lord, I admit that I want my kids to need me. I want to be an important part of their lives. But even more than depending on me, my desire is for them to depend on You. Lord, I know that You have a purpose for each of us. Deep inside we long to know and fulfill that purpose. We want to know that our lives have meaning beyond ourselves. I also know that my child isn’t too young to begin connecting with that purpose.           

Populate his life with people who will give him Your perspective. Surround him with friends who are also striving to find Your path in their lives. Make them traveling companions on this journey toward Your will.            

Give him wise mentors and instructors who will speak Your truth. Make them men and women of integrity who have my child’s best interests in their heart. As they guide him, give him discernment and the ability to tell the difference between Your truth and the world’s lies.

There are those who would not want him to follow You closely. Let him see their motives and be able to stay clear of their influence. Show him how Your path is the most wonderful adventure he could ever imagine. Amen

By: Edie Melson—author, blogger, speaker—has written numerous books, including While My Child Away: Prayers for When We’re Apart. Married to her high school sweetheart, Kirk, they live in the upstate of South Carolina and have raised 3 sons. Connect with her on through Twitter and Facebook.

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