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Praying for Failure

Praying for Failure

I don’t know about you, but for me, some of the best lessons I’ve ever learned came from trying something and failing. No, failure isn’t pleasant. But the skills I’ve acquired because of failing have made me who I am today. I’ve learned to be more patient, less fearful, and to approach a problem without preconceived ideas.

Failure is a completely different issue though, when it comes to my kids. I want them to find success, be happy, and learn all those things without ever having to fail.

Yeah…not gonna happen.

God pointed that out to me one time through a particularly painful prayer time when one of our boys was struggling. I kept praying for quick success, but God pointed out that the struggle was equipping him for the man he would become. My interference by trying to fix things in my son’s favor was interfering with God’s purpose. It was also interfering with my son turning to God for strength to make it through this painful time.


So I changed my prayers in regard to my kids’ struggles. Today I’m going to share it with you.

Dear Lord,

I know You know what’s best for my son, but it’s so painful to watch him struggling. I want to step in and fix things. But I also want him to learn how to turn to You when he’s struggling. If he doesn’t ever experience failure, how can that happen?

But I’m his mother, with a mother’s heart, and it’s breaking in two. Show me how to support him and encourage him without getting in the way of the lessons You want to teach him. Give him the resources he needs to find success.

Don’t let his failures turn to bitterness or fear. Instead let him see what I’ve learned – that the most valuable lessons come through failure. Show him how You’re using this situation to grow him into a strong man of faith. Give him Your perspective and use this to show him more of who You are.

I trust You. I’m putting my son in Your loving hands. Give me the peace to let him stay there. Amen.

By: Edie Melson—author, blogger, speaker—has written numerous books, including her most recent, While My Child is Away. Married to her high school sweetheart, Kirk, they live in the upstate of South Carolina and have raised three sons. Connect with her on,  Twitter and Facebook.

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