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Kids These Days

Kids These Days

“Kids these days.” If you haven’t spoken those words, you may have thought them. It’s a streamlined way to criticize a younger generation, and you only have to be slightly older to feel justified in sighing and saying, “Kids these days. They are lazy, irresponsible, and sometimes just plain messed up.” Your kids. My kids. And when those words are spoken, it is as if we have a free pass to be critical or hopeless or at the very least less than kind.

But we—the parents of adult children—need to remember that they are a work in progress, just as we are. We need to set aside the go-to negative thinking, and consider instead what our mature and maturing offspring bring to the body of Christ.

I have had my thinking challenged about various generations in the writings of Hadyn Shaw; he addresses generational strengths and weaknesses—and yes, we all have both. Generational IQ is his most recent book, and in it he looks at the spiritual strengths and common temptations for each generation—and we have both of those too.

In light of his observations, I’ve taken a fresh look at those younger than I am. I am watching my daughter and her husband rear their children and contribute to our church, and I am looking at the leadership, the teachers, and the many, many younger believers who contribute to the collective health of my local church, and I have realized that I am surrounded by “kids these days” who are stepping in and stepping up. I am grateful.

I find my thoughts returning to 1 Corinthians 13:4­7 where it is clear how I am to love others, including my children and yours.

  • I should not be rude
  • I should be patient, thoughtful, and kind
  • I should not be overly sensitive or easily angered
  • I should look for the best
  • I should not rejoice over failure
  • I should not keep score
  • I should never give up on my child or yours

We are approaching Valentine’s Day, and this would be a good time to let those we love know that we are grateful for them and for what they contribute to our families, our churches, and our communities.

Will you share how you are grateful for your kids these days?

By: Nancy Lohr

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  1. Nancy, this article should be plastered on everyone’s mirror, above the kitchen sink, and imprinted on our hearts! Thanks for recommending Shaw’s book, too. My 90-yr-old mother and I had a similar conversation this past week. It started with “Kids these days” and ended with us talking about how wonderful so many of them are (and that kids do not have the monopoly on rude or immature behavior!). Reading your article helps to set those thoughts like cement.

    • Thanks for your encouraging words, Robin. I love the mental picture you created of you and your mother–90-years-young–discussing this topic.

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