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Brotherhood of Fatherhood

Posted by on Jan 26, 2018 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Dad Voice | 0 comments

Before I was a father, I still had opportunities to be a father figure. I often think of one instance in particular. It was a time when I was part of what I call the “Brotherhood of Fatherhood.” For many years I directed a major Easter production in Louisiana. This was prior to God blessing me with children. One of the special effects we used was dry ice. You’ve likely seen the effect, as a low-lying layer of pure white smoke wafts across the stage. Handling dry ice can be a bit tricky – and dangerous. The chemical reaction that makes the effect work is the rapid thaw of the substance in a pressurized container. This is what forces the fog across the stage. In addition to mandatory training, there is a high trust level placed on the individual...

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A Holy Habit

Posted by on Dec 19, 2017 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Dad Voice | 0 comments

I’m not a big fan of winter—I don’t recall a time when I ever was. I was told, “If you get involved in a winter sport, then you will love it.” I donned skies, skates, and snowshoes (but not all at once) and headed out into the chill. I’ve lived in towns that gave me access to winter wonders like major ski slopes and the longest skating rink in the world. But, nope, that didn’t work; I still don’t like winter. But in the middle of this season that I loathe, is a season that I love. Smack dab in the middle of all that coldness and short dark days is Christmas. The season of light came just when I needed it! I loved the lights, the tree, the special baked goods Mom only made in December, the music,...

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Mean What You Say—Say What You Mean

Posted by on Oct 20, 2017 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Dad Voice | 0 comments

It was happening two lines over from where I stood in line waiting to pay for my groceries. A mother was yelling at her child. “Behave or I will whip you,” she said for the fourth time. “That’s it. I’m never bringing you out of the house again! You can just sit home alone while the rest of us go out.” Nothing changed in the boy’s behavior. In fact, his disobedience elevated. He knew the sound of empty threats. (I will set aside commenting on yelling, “I will whip you” to a child for another time, but right now I want to comment on the poor parenting.) You see, he knew his mother didn’t mean what she was saying. Mean what you say—say what you mean. Numerous times I have heard a parent start “the count.” You know what...

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Daddy, Read Me a Story

Posted by on Sep 15, 2017 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Dad Voice | 1 comment

My mother tells me that when I was a child I could not get enough of the Dr. Seuss classic, The Cat in the Hat. I asked her to read it to me repeatedly. Eventually, as the years passed, she sat while I read it to her. Over and over we shared that book. Yet as a father, it was high on my list of least favorite books, and I would try and suggest other books to my sons to distract them from that classic. It rarely worked, but like father, like son, they continuously craved it. Even as the monotony of the rhymes grated at me, I treasured the time I had as my sons cuddled up on my lap for story time. The connection was wonderful. A few weeks ago, I shared this with some friends. Many...

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The Family Table

Posted by on Aug 25, 2017 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Dad Voice | 0 comments

“Growing up, I learned life’s important lessons at the dinner table.”—Chef John Besh I am not only a dad; I’m a university professor as well. One of the things we value at Kingswood is community. To perpetuate this, we often invite students to join us for a family meal. One of my fellow faculty members shared a heartbreaking story. A student had joined them for dinner. About halfway through the meal, the young girl began to weep. This, of course, confused her hosts. “What’s wrong?” they asked. “It’s just that this is so special,” she said. “It’s just meatloaf.” She continued, “I have never had a family meal like this. Our family didn’t eat meals together. Even on Christmas we served ourselves and sat around the den watching TV.  We never sat and talked like this. The only time...

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Make a Note to be Thankful

Posted by on Jul 18, 2017 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Dad Voice | 0 comments

This past Mother’s Day we as a family invited those around us whom might feel a disconnect to join us for our special meal. By “disconnect” I mean those who would be separated from children or parents on Mother’s Day. As it turned out, our choice was my new supervisor and his wife. They have recently moved from Indiana and were separated from family. We had a nice lunch together blessed with laughter and camaraderie. A week later our mail contained a nice handwritten note: a thank you card.  My wife opened the envelope and read the contents.  It was a simply stated but obviously heartfelt expression of thankfulness. One of my sons commented, “A thank you note for lunch?” “Sure,” I said and gave him the card to read.  Then I asked, “How does that make you feel?”...

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