You Have a Special Place in the Family
Underneath the picture wall in our hall sits a long table. On the table I have additional pictures and I enjoy them every time I walk to my office.
Recently I noticed the pictures on the table facing the wall. I turned them around and the next time I passed, they were again facing the wall. I wasn’t sure what was going on until I caught our three-year-old in the act of turning the pictures to the wall.
“Why do you turn all the pictures around?” I asked.
“Because I like them like that,” she said matter-of-factly.
“You don’t like looking at the faces in the pictures?”
“Well, I like them but I want my picture up there.”
“So if I put a picture of you in the group you will leave them facing out?
“Uh-huh.” She nodded. “Put a picture of me on the table.”
Problem solved. And I will make sure a picture of Elisabeth is included in the display on the table.
We all need validation. It may come in a word or two. It may be a hug. It may be time spent with each child individually. It may be that a picture needs to be included in a group on the wall or table. But whatever form that takes, we need to know that we are part of a family, that our place in the family is secure. Elisabeth is no different and all she wanted to know was that her picture was just as important as anyone else’s.
Our discussion opened the door to talk to Elisabeth about her place in God’s family. Even as a 3-year-old she can understand that concept. I also reminded her of several things.
- God loves her and she is part of His family.
- If God had a table in the hall her picture would be on it.
- Any time Elisabeth (or any of your children) feels like she is not getting enough attention in the family, give her a job that brings her to center stage for a bit.
- Remind all your children frequently that God chose them specifically to be His child and yours.
Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. Ephesians 1:4
Is there a family group on your table that is incomplete? Add a picture that changes that!
By: Linda Gilden is a freelance writer and editor who appreciates every opportunity to serve her family, even in the midst of her writing projects. www.lindagilden.com
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