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I’ve always wanted to be one of those diligent super-moms.

You know the ones. The moms who have a meal planned out for every night of the week and then actually follow through and make it. The moms who have laundry not only washed and dried, but actually taken out of the dryer, folded, AND put away. The moms who have no dishes in the sink and no questionable smells emanating from the trash can. The moms who also manage to work outside of the home, volunteer, and maintain other relationships with both grace and flare.

The moms who get things done and even look cute and together while doing it.

Just for the record, I don’t actually know any mom who is like this. But I’m notorious for trying to be this fictitious mom. If I could just check all these boxes on my list, I muse, today would be a success. I would be a good parent—a diligent, super-mom.

One of my daily struggles is the compulsive need to “check all the boxes.” I feel the self-imposed pressure to perform this whole mom thing flawlessly by balancing all my homemaker and relational tasks while at the same time producing sweet little God-glorifying cherubs.

Are you exhausted just thinking about such lofty goals? Because I am.

Recently I went searching for what Scripture has to say about being a good mom. (I figured this was a better alternative than doing a Google search.) What I found was quite startling.

For starters, “Thou shalt not let the sun set on thine sink whilst it overflows with dishes” was nowhere to be found. Neither did I find “Anyone whose garments remain in the dryer overnight, for her it is sin,” or “Go ye therefore and make a habit of never saying ‘no’ to anyone who asks anything of you, ever.”

But you know what I did find?

A call to be diligent. But not about the things over which I tend to obsess.

Instead, God’s people are told four key things again and again: Remember what God has done (Deut. 4:9); Love God with your entire being (Deut. 6:5); Obey God’s commands (Duet. 6:17); and teach your children to do the same (Duet. 4:9; 6:7).

“Diligent” is defined as being “constant in effort to accomplish something; attentive and persistent in doing anything.”

The Bible calls me as a mother, wife, and Christ-follower to be attentive and persistent in loving my God and in teaching my children to do the same. I’m told to “keep [my] soul diligently,” to “diligently keep [God’s] commandments,” and to “teach them diligently to [my] children.”

In other words, if I’m going to be preoccupied—obsessed, even—with doing anything, it shouldn’t be with keeping my sink impressively empty or my calendar impressively full.

Rather, my eyes should be set on what’s truly important: loving and obeying God, and teaching my family how to do the same.

And doing so persistently. Attentively.


By: Mary Holloman is married to her handsome husband of five years and has two children: a two-year old son who never stops moving, and a brand-new baby girl. Mary works and writes for Greensboro Pregnancy Care Center and also serves in her local church’s college ministry. You can follow her daily shenanigans on her blog, All My Springs, which can be found at or follow her on Twitter at @mtholloman.

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