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Bermuda Triangle Arguments

Posted by on Sep 9, 2016 in Blog, Inspiration for the Journey | 0 comments

Have you had one of those Bermuda Triangle arguments? Also known as “How to get lost in an argument and not find a way out.” We’ve all been caught in those baffling arguments that seem to go nowhere, mostly because the directional arrows of who is to blame and right or wrong keep getting switched. Children are masters of this! It’s as though they have been given the manuscript. Take a look at the three roles. Think of them as hats that each of us wear, and consider how we keep switching them: Victim:  The hat would say, “Poor me.” Perpetrator: The hat would say, “This is your fault.” Rescuer:  The hat would say, “I am just trying to help.” In any given argument we can wear all three hats and they just keep switching from head to head....

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How to Increase Your Child’s Self-Esteem

Posted by on Aug 22, 2016 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Inspiration for the Journey | 0 comments

“You look so pretty in that new dress.” “Wow you really landed that shot.” “An A+, I’m so proud of you.” A lot of parents invest an inordinate amount of money buying designer clothes, colored hair streaks, fake nails, and the latest athletic shoes. Others coach, encourage, support with hours on the bench watching, or astronomical amounts of money on the best bat, glove, shoes, etc. Academically parents spend more time on encouraging homework than they might just being with their child in a fun loving way. So what’s wrong with that? Nothing. But don’t expect any of that to help bolster your child’s self- esteem. It won’t. All of those accomplishments are fleeting and their good feelings only last until the next challenge or competition. Children can deflate faster than a pricked balloon when a classmate says, “That...

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Become the Wild Parent this Summer

Posted by on Jun 28, 2016 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Inspiration for the Journey | 0 comments

Summer has arrived. Do you know what that means? It’s time to become the wild parent! After months of a rigid schedule, this is a great opportunity to have fun and make some memories with your children. Break some of the rules. Seriously, it’s okay every once in a while. Act silly. Go on mini-vacations in your town. Stay up late. Sack out on the grass and watch the stars together. Become a child again with your children. Laugh together. Let the kids pick the menus. Fix some unusual meals. Borrow a projector and watch a movie outside. Yes, the rules are important. Yes, every family needs structure. But when the chance arrives to do the unexpected—to have fun with your children—do it! You’ll discover what I did: Your children love it when you spend time with them, when...

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Hijacked!

Posted by on Jun 22, 2016 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Inspiration for the Journey | 0 comments

There are several ways we commit hijacking crimes in relationships . . . One way of hijacking a conversation is when our child (or spouse) tells us something and we, “one up them.” We’ve all had it happen. We tell a story and someone tells an even bigger one. For instance, we get a good deal but someone reports getting an even better one. We are left holding our own emotional baggage, we feel disappointed and still wishing for validation and someone to enjoy our victory.  We came into the conversation feeling great, and suddenly, we are not feeling so great. With your child, hijacking may go like this . . . “Wow, great job on icing that cookie. Look, Mommy made clown faces on hers.” “You have a poem published in the school anthology? You are just like...

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Memories of Father’s Day

Posted by on Jun 17, 2016 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Inspiration for the Journey | 0 comments

For those who didn’t have a warm and loving relationship with their dads, Father’s Day can bring back sad memories. While I wish it was otherwise, I’m sure that many of you reading this post have those kind of memories. What makes it extra sad is that often those poor fathering traits are passed down from one generation to another. But it doesn’t have to be that way. This Father’s Day would be a great time for you to make the commitment that your children will not grow up with memories that make them sad because of you. So what can you do? Sit down and make a list of the things your dad did wrong, and then make a list of how you can do the complete opposite. Make a list of the things you wish you’d had...

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Leave a Tender Moment Alone

Posted by on May 17, 2016 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Blog, Inspiration for the Journey | 1 comment

“Thank you for the flower, sweetheart. You’ll be okay, but remember this is why we don’t touch rosebushes.” When a child reaches out with a tender feeling and you turn it into an opportunity to instruct them, you can destroy bonding and trust. One of the most frequent mistakes we make as parents is trying to teach during a tender moment. If we change our child’s focus from the tender feeling, we may be guilty of sabotaging the best opportunities for emotional closeness, and create emotional distance instead. There is always plenty of time for teaching, but tender moments don’t come around nearly as often. Tender moments start when a child comes to you with positive or negative emotions. Neither should be short-circuited and turned into educational moments. Other tender moments that get sabotaged may sound like this: “I’m...

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