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Transparency

Posted by on Dec 28, 2015 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Beyond 18 Summers, Blog | 0 comments

Buzzwords always intrigue me. I may know the literal meaning of the word, but the cultural meaning is often quite different. If you are the parent of an adult child, you have likely heard the call for transparency. The dictionary says that transparent means to “see through,” but the buzzword transparent means to “see into; to be authentic or real.”  As a Baby Boomer, I am working to understand how to live transparently for these who are being as honest with their request as they want me to be in return. I hope folks will chime in if I have this wrong, but I think this transparency requires that I be honest about my struggles, that I not put on airs that I have everything figured out, that I not act as though all sin is under control or...

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Thankful for What I Haven’t

Posted by on Nov 25, 2015 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Beyond 18 Summers, Blog | 0 comments

If November were to have a theme verse, it just might be “In everything give thanks” (1 Thessalonians 5:18). Four words, simple words, and one a simple command. Give thanks. Give thanks in everything. If it’s November, then you’ve probably thought about what you are thankful for. I know that I have. If your list is like mine, it includes people and health and goods and more. I am grateful for the Lord most of all, and I know that He is the source of all the good gifts I have. But I’d like to suggest that there is a bit more to “everything.” Some years ago a friend prompted me to be thankful for what I don’t have, and I going to ask you to consider this too. Here is the beginning of my list this year. Maybe...

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It’s Inspirational Role Models Month

Posted by on Oct 28, 2015 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Beyond 18 Summers, Blog | 2 comments

About 60 years ago the term role model entered our national vocabulary, and ten years ago Inspirational Role Models Month was founded to celebrate those whose example is worthy of recognition, maybe even imitation. Both children and parents need role models. So how do we go about finding those and what can we learn from them? Since I’ve never been invited to an Inspirational Role Models Month party, and I’ve never seen an IRM greeting card, I’m going to go out on a limb and celebrate my own way by recognizing role models from the Old Testament. Like any human, each of these failed in some areas of life. Many things remain unknown about them, and some of what we know is cautionary at best or serves as a negative example. But as I consider each of these, I...

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If Only

Posted by on Sep 29, 2015 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Beyond 18 Summers, Blog | 0 comments

If your journey has taken you beyond your eighteen summers, I would hazard a guess that you have looked at your grown child, remembered a time from his or her childhood, and thought, “If only.” If only I had been a better parent If only I had spoken more tactfully . . . or known not to speak at all If only I had been more patient and had more wisdom for the tough times If only I had seen the giftedness and given more resources to developing it If only I had complimented instead of complained If only I had given more (or less) independence If only I had seen the signs, the symptoms, the needs If only I had matured in my own faith sooner If only If only Do you have regrets? At some level I’m...

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Traditions

Posted by on Aug 28, 2015 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Beyond 18 Summers, Blog | 0 comments

A few months ago, I gave each of my grandchildren a new book to start their summer reading (in the case of the youngest, his summer listening). My daughter gave me guidance on good topics for each of them, and the impromptu gift was successful enough for the oldest to ask, “Ama, is this a tradition?” What a great question! Traditions give us intentional ways to make memories with our children and our grandchildren. Doing something once might be considered an event, but twice makes an event into a practice or a habit, and, voilà, a tradition is born. The cost in dollars need not be expensive. Your time and thought are at the heart of providing pleasant, memorable connections with your family—traditions. I’ve reminisced about traditions from our eighteen summers. Some were seasonal. We always started fall with...

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Filters

Posted by on Jul 28, 2015 in A CHERISHED FAMILY, Beyond 18 Summers, Blog | 0 comments

During my childhood, the letters “SPF” were little more to me than a handful of Scrabble tiles. However, had they meant then what they do now, I might have escaped some scorchingly painful sunburns—the red, blistered, why-didn’t-I-come-inside kinds of burns that came once a summer to my fair skin. I needed a filter, and these days SPF 50 is my filter of choice, lots and often. As grown-ups, we come to appreciate other filters. Each of these filters will become clogged with impurities, and we will need to clean or replace them, but in their prime, they serve us well. We use filters For coffee grounds or tea leaves For the conditioned air circulating through our homes For the fuel in our automobiles On our water faucets to purify our drinking water On our internet connections to block offensive...

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