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10 Ways to Love Your Children

10 Ways to Love Your Children

When your children look into your eyes, do they know that you love them? Do you smile more at them than you do at strangers? Do your children know deep in their hearts that you care about them? How often do you tell them that you love them?

In the love chapter, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 says: Love endures long and is patient and kind; love is never envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily. It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride.); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly, Love (God’s love in us) does not insists on its own rights or its own way, for it is not touchy or fretful or resentful. and endures everything. Love never fails. (The Message Bible)

It blesses me to know that God’s definition of love focuses on the treatment of others. It’s selfless and not selfish. I needed that because my husband and I were childless for 20 years of our marriage. We have no problem telling our children “no” or “not now.” There’s a time and place for those words, but I was starting to feel guilty. We’d prayed for children and I didn’t want to look at them as a liability. I needed to transform my thinking. I discovered that showing love (while seeking peace and getting the job done) can be accomplished with the help of the Holy Spirit.,

Here are some tips that have helped me show my love for my children:

  1. Prioritize family time. When you have more than one child, plan special alone time with each one. Try to do this at least once a month, even if it is just a car ride for an errand. My husband loves this one because he works a lot and this is how he gets his special time with our sons.
  2. Converse daily with your children about God’s love for us. Share that if we have the solution for a problem, we should strive to make a difference.
  3. Show your children what’s most important—and who you love most. Arrange their sports and other planned activities around church or other things for the kingdom of God. Make the commitment to follow through first for God and then for other things.
  4. Encourage your children by example to show them how to help other family members.
  5. Review the love chapter together when confusion and whining become a big issue. No home is perfect, but striving to live peacefully will help to reduce the chaos.
  6. Love them enough to explain why you sometimes tell them no—for example, to protect them, not just to restrict them.
  7. Encourage discipline around the home. Give your children chores and encourage them to take the initiative to clean up or help when they see a need. A loving parent will teach them to be responsible.
  8. Don’t forget that you can never give too many hugs or kisses.
  9. Remember that you can never say “I love you” too many times.
  10. Choose joy as a way to live and display this in front of your children.

By: Evelyn Burns is a wife of 30 years and is a mom of 3 boys. She teaches Sunday School, is a registered nurse, professor/adjunct faculty member, writer, and speaker. Visit her at

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